What your dance moves say about your relationship

Dancing is a way to spot real love. When two people can dance with each other like fools and not waste a second about what other people think, that's true love.

I thought about this as I watched my friend Heather and her husband James take part in their first dance yesterday as a married couple. I recalled watching them in a Minneapolis club a few months ago attempt the art of salsa dancing and failing miserably. But even with dozens of pairs of eyes on them, they acted like they were the only ones in the room.

Again last night when Heather gave James the equivalent of a backwards lap dance (sans alcohol) to the song "Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy" and the moves were almost not suitable for the PG-13 audience, it was another sign that they're the real deal.

They're young and in love. Getting married at 22 these days seems like the new 18. But I know this couple will be an anomoly in a world where divorce stories are common. I know this, because of the way they dance together (and a few other things...).

Ben and I will probably never be like Fred and Ginger, but my renditions to "Baby's Got Back" and "I Like Big Butts" put huge smiles on his face. My heart warms when he holds me close to sappy Elvis songs. Recently at his sister's wedding, we danced the night away -- mostly sober. We groved to the fast songs and swayed during the ballads. After seven years of dating (with our share of ups and downs), my heart fluttered. A few steps on the dance floor confirmed what I know about Ben and our relationship.

This might seem too simplistic, but I think the way two people dance with each other can say a lot about their love, their devotion to each other, their trust.

If you don't believe me, prove me wrong. Put on some tunes and transform your living room into a dance floor.